Hey there. I have been pretty busy and away for a long time. I know some of you probably stopped coming by to visit me because I have been missing in action.
I got married on August 12 this year and found out I was pregnant 2 days later.
So I am now 5 months pregnant next week. I have gone through the morning sickness.
The hormonal ups and downs, and everything else that is associated with pregnancy. My baby is 14 years old so it is almost like this is all new since it has been so long now.
I have been establishing myself, creating a niche in the business world. I think I finally know what I want to be when "I grow up".
I went from trying to lose weight and feeling good about myself to gaining weight for a good cause(which somehow doesn't appease all senses), but helps with the overall self esteem.
I came across an article which I thought was pretty helpful when getting by.
I would like to share it with you.

Living a life of "Frustrated Potentiality"?
Copyright 2006 Doreen Banaszak

Frustrated Potentiality...

I wish I had this phrase 5 years ago when I was sitting at
my desk, wanting to bang my head on it, thinking how much
more I could be doing if I wasn't working 60 hours a week
at a job that wasn't meaningful to me. At least I would
have had a phrase to explain exactly what I was feeling!

How does "frustrated potentiality" feel to you? What images
does it conjure up for you?

When I came across this phrase the other day it
immediately reminded me of a famous quote, that talks about
people leading "lives of quiet desperation", but with one
big difference...

"Desperation" lacks hope, "frustration" indicates a
willingness to do something, if you can get past the
frustration.

If you've ever felt this and are like I was, you simply
plow forward and focus on changing your circumstances.

But what usually happens when we follow this course? We
get what we think we want and then we want more, so yet
again we are back in our state of "frustrated potentiality".

So if changing circumstances doesn’t help, what will?
Learning how to "create" your experience is the key to
getting beyond frustration and into flow.

Let's take your career for example. If you always wanted
to do meaningful work, but felt as though you couldn't make
money doing it, you will always experience "frustrated
potentiality" until you actually do work that is meaningful.

Ok, now you know why you are frustrated...

So, where are you feeling "frustrated potentiality"?

Ask yourself this question regarding any area of your life,
your relationships, money, career, family...

Now use these 4 steps to turn your frustrated potentiality
into unlimited potentiality...

Step One, Get HONEST!

Ask yourself what you really want in this area. Let's go
back to the career example. What you really want here is
to make money doing meaningful work. That's it, plain and
simple. The trick here is to be completely honest. If
you're not, you will remain frustrated even though you say
you think you know what you want.

Step Two, Define What You Mean

Now ask yourself, what does "meaningful work" mean to me?
What would I be doing? Who would I be doing it with? Do I
like to work independently or with a group? What have I
always felt was important? What ideas have I had in the
past around the idea of meaningful work? How much money do
I WANT to make?

DO NOT THINK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL DO THIS! If you do, I
guarantee you will not get to step 3.

Take a moment and just start asking. Let the flow carry
you to the next question. What you'll end up with is an
idea of how this might actually be a possibility for you.

Step Three, Create a Vision for Yourself

Now create a vision of you doing what you've defined.
Picture yourself doing the work and collecting the check.

Why is this so important? Because until you can feel that
this is a real possibility for you, you won't have the
ideas and thoughts that will create the opportunities to
make it happen. If you are not positive about this, you
may as well stop now.

Step Four, Look for it!

I had a client who got to this level of detail and found a
job description that matched exactly what she had defined
for herself.

Another client took his definition on a job interview and
asked exactly for what he had defined and got it.

Many entrepreneurs have used this to define their ideal
client and they seemingly appeared out of nowhere.

So a life of "frustrated potentiality" or one of "unlimited
potentiality".

It's your choice, now that you have the these 4 steps!


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Doreen Banaszak is a coach, teacher and the author of the
upcoming book, due for release Spring 2007, "Excuse Me,
Your Life Is Now", the follow-up to Lynn Grabhorn's New
York Times Best Seller, "Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting".
Register for Doreen's free mini-course, "Access Your
Power", 4 Steps to Deliberately Create Any Experience You
Want" at
http://www.your-life-is-now.com