Hey there. I have been pretty busy and away for a long time. I know some of you probably stopped coming by to visit me because I have been missing in action.
I got married on August 12 this year and found out I was pregnant 2 days later.
So I am now 5 months pregnant next week. I have gone through the morning sickness.
The hormonal ups and downs, and everything else that is associated with pregnancy. My baby is 14 years old so it is almost like this is all new since it has been so long now.
I have been establishing myself, creating a niche in the business world. I think I finally know what I want to be when "I grow up".
I went from trying to lose weight and feeling good about myself to gaining weight for a good cause(which somehow doesn't appease all senses), but helps with the overall self esteem.
I came across an article which I thought was pretty helpful when getting by.
I would like to share it with you.
Living a life of "Frustrated Potentiality"?
Copyright 2006 Doreen Banaszak
Frustrated Potentiality...
I wish I had this phrase 5 years ago when I was sitting at
my desk, wanting to bang my head on it, thinking how much
more I could be doing if I wasn't working 60 hours a week
at a job that wasn't meaningful to me. At least I would
have had a phrase to explain exactly what I was feeling!
How does "frustrated potentiality" feel to you? What images
does it conjure up for you?
When I came across this phrase the other day it
immediately reminded me of a famous quote, that talks about
people leading "lives of quiet desperation", but with one
big difference...
"Desperation" lacks hope, "frustration" indicates a
willingness to do something, if you can get past the
frustration.
If you've ever felt this and are like I was, you simply
plow forward and focus on changing your circumstances.
But what usually happens when we follow this course? We
get what we think we want and then we want more, so yet
again we are back in our state of "frustrated potentiality".
So if changing circumstances doesn’t help, what will?
Learning how to "create" your experience is the key to
getting beyond frustration and into flow.
Let's take your career for example. If you always wanted
to do meaningful work, but felt as though you couldn't make
money doing it, you will always experience "frustrated
potentiality" until you actually do work that is meaningful.
Ok, now you know why you are frustrated...
So, where are you feeling "frustrated potentiality"?
Ask yourself this question regarding any area of your life,
your relationships, money, career, family...
Now use these 4 steps to turn your frustrated potentiality
into unlimited potentiality...
Step One, Get HONEST!
Ask yourself what you really want in this area. Let's go
back to the career example. What you really want here is
to make money doing meaningful work. That's it, plain and
simple. The trick here is to be completely honest. If
you're not, you will remain frustrated even though you say
you think you know what you want.
Step Two, Define What You Mean
Now ask yourself, what does "meaningful work" mean to me?
What would I be doing? Who would I be doing it with? Do I
like to work independently or with a group? What have I
always felt was important? What ideas have I had in the
past around the idea of meaningful work? How much money do
I WANT to make?
DO NOT THINK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL DO THIS! If you do, I
guarantee you will not get to step 3.
Take a moment and just start asking. Let the flow carry
you to the next question. What you'll end up with is an
idea of how this might actually be a possibility for you.
Step Three, Create a Vision for Yourself
Now create a vision of you doing what you've defined.
Picture yourself doing the work and collecting the check.
Why is this so important? Because until you can feel that
this is a real possibility for you, you won't have the
ideas and thoughts that will create the opportunities to
make it happen. If you are not positive about this, you
may as well stop now.
Step Four, Look for it!
I had a client who got to this level of detail and found a
job description that matched exactly what she had defined
for herself.
Another client took his definition on a job interview and
asked exactly for what he had defined and got it.
Many entrepreneurs have used this to define their ideal
client and they seemingly appeared out of nowhere.
So a life of "frustrated potentiality" or one of "unlimited
potentiality".
It's your choice, now that you have the these 4 steps!
----------------------------------------------------
Doreen Banaszak is a coach, teacher and the author of the
upcoming book, due for release Spring 2007, "Excuse Me,
Your Life Is Now", the follow-up to Lynn Grabhorn's New
York Times Best Seller, "Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting".
Register for Doreen's free mini-course, "Access Your
Power", 4 Steps to Deliberately Create Any Experience You
Want" at
http://www.your-life-is-now.com
Friday, November 17, 2006
Monday, March 13, 2006
I recently have changed my lifestyle and thinking process. I have had a bit of a hard time avoiding certain mistakes repeatedly. But I decided to embark on a journey for enlightenment the last few years and have come to realize my attitude has been all wrong.
The following article I found to be a good read. Hopefully it will give you some insight into a new way of thinking to maximize your full potential.
How Are Your Choices Forming Patterns and Perspectives In Your Life?
Copyright 2006 Awakenings Life Coaching by Kathryn Bonner
The way you view life is vital, it is the key to the
method, the way you understand and experience life. There
are those who find life to be wonderful, breathtaking,
magnificent, amazing, joyful, miraculous, adventurous, and
there are those who don’t.
I find it to be quite amazing how some people truly do live
life out of the thoughts or feelings of lack. I hear them
complain and be negative in most areas of their living, and
don’t realize that they are their own worst enemy!
I know a woman who grew up with polio and had eighteen
surgeries growing up. She was in a brace or a cast all the
way up to her hips, limiting her movement for much of her
life. She could not do the things other children and young
adults could do! I never knew her as a child with this
disease. I’ve only know her as an adult and knowing her
now, and I know of her magnificence! She says and believes
that her polio was a gift! There are many who may have
taken these very circumstances and taken on the opposite
view. She could have ended up a very bitter woman, and we
as a society would have thought she had the right to be
because of her polio.
We have been given the freedom of thought, the freedom of
choice, the freedom to believe, the capacity to be
thinking, feeling human beings! Wow! What freedoms we
have! What a beautiful thing this freedom of thought is
and how powerful it is!
What are you doing with your mind? What way are you
choosing to live your life? What thoughts, what
disposition to you want or do you long for?
This journey of life is exactly that, a journey. Much of
this journey is made up of our thoughts. Thoughts about
ourselves and about others and thoughts about what others
think of us! It can get very heavy or it can be beautiful
thoughts of others!
When someone thinks highly of you, you know it! When
someone thinks poorly of you, you know it! You feel great
around those that think well of you, and you feel awkward
and unsure, less confident around those that don’t. It’s
amazing what thoughts do and how they can be felt! You can
feel them in your body!
In my journey I have always tried to see everyone in a
positive light, and be a positive light to those I
encounter. It’s my choice to see and experience beauty
fully. It is my choice to enjoy each and every human being
I encounter, no matter how different they might be. I am
able to discover and uncover the beauty within them. This
is my choice to do so and I find it to serve me well. I
find it to bring much beauty and joy to my life.
There have been times when people have surfaced in my life
for one reason or another that I did not want there. There
is a particular woman who seemed to be always there, I
didn’t like her hardness. Her viewpoint on life was very
different from mine. We were complete opposites in our
thinking. Yet, both of us were deep thinkers, both of us
held deep convictions within our very souls. Both of us
took God very seriously and yet very differently! She was
brought into my life to strengthen my faith at a time when
my faith was faltering. She was the only one who saw that
my faith was faltering because she knew exactly what it was
to have faltering faith! When my dearest friends didn’t
see it, she did! She knew life on a different level than
I. She brought life to me on a different level. She
expanded my mind, and I became one of compassion for her!
It is amazing this life! When I finally made the choice to
allow her into my life, I believe God used her to
strengthen my faith at a time when I needed it!
Choices are amazing. We have to make so many every day!
With every choice there is a consequence. With good
choices we experience good or great consequences. With bad
choices we experience bad or horrible consequences. We
become attuned to these outcomes, or we don’t.
I would encourage you to begin really thinking, examining
the choices you make and why you make them. They form
these amazing patterns in your life!
I have always taught my daughters this and used the dating
scenarios with them. I felt that it was tremendously
important for them to view the young men they were allowing
into their young lives in total truth. (Think about
viewing one in total truth, for that matter think about
viewing yourself in total truth). I would remind the girls
that certain behaviors, if they allowed them, or merely
accepted them, that they were in the process of allowing
certain types of behavior become acceptable. Letting them
know that patterns were being formed in their young lives.
Making them aware if they were living unconsciously (sleep
walking through life), or consciously (awakening) in their
relationships was HUGE! I never wanted them to be living
their lives unconsciously!
So many of us can sleep walk through life allowing
unbecoming behaviors to become a part of our lives! This
therefore sets the patterns up and sets the stage of your
life!
Think about the patterns you have in your life, what are
you compromising on? What are you settling for? Why?
Raise your echelon of accepted wisdom! What kind of role
model are you being for your children, for your co-workers,
your employees? What leadership role are you in? Where to
you want to change? What is working for you? What isn’t?
How to you want to experience this life!?
The thing I love about life it that we can always choose!
We can choose to break free of thoughts and behaviors that
no longer serve the right purpose for us! We can allow
ourselves to be transformed and awakened! We can
recognize this life is a journey with many paths and can
choose to stay on the road we are on or we can take the
fork in the road that will lead us to places known and
unknown making good and right choices along the way!
Here’s to living fully and being fully awakened!
Kathryn
----------------------------------------------------
Kathryn Bonner is a Professional, Personal, Executive and
Spiritual Life Coach trained through CTI, The Coaches
Training Institute. View her website at
http://www.AwakeningsLifeCoaching.com Email:
AwakeningsLifeCoaching@cox.net Office: 512-260-7775 Toll
Free: 866-469-8800
Using this article will allow you one pro bono coaching
session over the phone! This aids us both in deciding if
we should partner together. If you are ready for growth,
desire to become a great leader in the work place, want to
be stretched, long for renewal, grace and a fuller life,
give coaching a shot and experience the ability to truly
accomplish your dreams and goals. I would be honored to aid
you in your journey, living the God given dreams you have!
Please visit my site for all your business and personal needs.
K.D.B Business Services
word processing/proofreading, desktop publishing, bookkeeping, fax service, and computer lessons
http://kdbbusinessservices.com
children's storyebooks, poetry,various ebook topics by demand
The following article I found to be a good read. Hopefully it will give you some insight into a new way of thinking to maximize your full potential.
How Are Your Choices Forming Patterns and Perspectives In Your Life?
Copyright 2006 Awakenings Life Coaching by Kathryn Bonner
The way you view life is vital, it is the key to the
method, the way you understand and experience life. There
are those who find life to be wonderful, breathtaking,
magnificent, amazing, joyful, miraculous, adventurous, and
there are those who don’t.
I find it to be quite amazing how some people truly do live
life out of the thoughts or feelings of lack. I hear them
complain and be negative in most areas of their living, and
don’t realize that they are their own worst enemy!
I know a woman who grew up with polio and had eighteen
surgeries growing up. She was in a brace or a cast all the
way up to her hips, limiting her movement for much of her
life. She could not do the things other children and young
adults could do! I never knew her as a child with this
disease. I’ve only know her as an adult and knowing her
now, and I know of her magnificence! She says and believes
that her polio was a gift! There are many who may have
taken these very circumstances and taken on the opposite
view. She could have ended up a very bitter woman, and we
as a society would have thought she had the right to be
because of her polio.
We have been given the freedom of thought, the freedom of
choice, the freedom to believe, the capacity to be
thinking, feeling human beings! Wow! What freedoms we
have! What a beautiful thing this freedom of thought is
and how powerful it is!
What are you doing with your mind? What way are you
choosing to live your life? What thoughts, what
disposition to you want or do you long for?
This journey of life is exactly that, a journey. Much of
this journey is made up of our thoughts. Thoughts about
ourselves and about others and thoughts about what others
think of us! It can get very heavy or it can be beautiful
thoughts of others!
When someone thinks highly of you, you know it! When
someone thinks poorly of you, you know it! You feel great
around those that think well of you, and you feel awkward
and unsure, less confident around those that don’t. It’s
amazing what thoughts do and how they can be felt! You can
feel them in your body!
In my journey I have always tried to see everyone in a
positive light, and be a positive light to those I
encounter. It’s my choice to see and experience beauty
fully. It is my choice to enjoy each and every human being
I encounter, no matter how different they might be. I am
able to discover and uncover the beauty within them. This
is my choice to do so and I find it to serve me well. I
find it to bring much beauty and joy to my life.
There have been times when people have surfaced in my life
for one reason or another that I did not want there. There
is a particular woman who seemed to be always there, I
didn’t like her hardness. Her viewpoint on life was very
different from mine. We were complete opposites in our
thinking. Yet, both of us were deep thinkers, both of us
held deep convictions within our very souls. Both of us
took God very seriously and yet very differently! She was
brought into my life to strengthen my faith at a time when
my faith was faltering. She was the only one who saw that
my faith was faltering because she knew exactly what it was
to have faltering faith! When my dearest friends didn’t
see it, she did! She knew life on a different level than
I. She brought life to me on a different level. She
expanded my mind, and I became one of compassion for her!
It is amazing this life! When I finally made the choice to
allow her into my life, I believe God used her to
strengthen my faith at a time when I needed it!
Choices are amazing. We have to make so many every day!
With every choice there is a consequence. With good
choices we experience good or great consequences. With bad
choices we experience bad or horrible consequences. We
become attuned to these outcomes, or we don’t.
I would encourage you to begin really thinking, examining
the choices you make and why you make them. They form
these amazing patterns in your life!
I have always taught my daughters this and used the dating
scenarios with them. I felt that it was tremendously
important for them to view the young men they were allowing
into their young lives in total truth. (Think about
viewing one in total truth, for that matter think about
viewing yourself in total truth). I would remind the girls
that certain behaviors, if they allowed them, or merely
accepted them, that they were in the process of allowing
certain types of behavior become acceptable. Letting them
know that patterns were being formed in their young lives.
Making them aware if they were living unconsciously (sleep
walking through life), or consciously (awakening) in their
relationships was HUGE! I never wanted them to be living
their lives unconsciously!
So many of us can sleep walk through life allowing
unbecoming behaviors to become a part of our lives! This
therefore sets the patterns up and sets the stage of your
life!
Think about the patterns you have in your life, what are
you compromising on? What are you settling for? Why?
Raise your echelon of accepted wisdom! What kind of role
model are you being for your children, for your co-workers,
your employees? What leadership role are you in? Where to
you want to change? What is working for you? What isn’t?
How to you want to experience this life!?
The thing I love about life it that we can always choose!
We can choose to break free of thoughts and behaviors that
no longer serve the right purpose for us! We can allow
ourselves to be transformed and awakened! We can
recognize this life is a journey with many paths and can
choose to stay on the road we are on or we can take the
fork in the road that will lead us to places known and
unknown making good and right choices along the way!
Here’s to living fully and being fully awakened!
Kathryn
----------------------------------------------------
Kathryn Bonner is a Professional, Personal, Executive and
Spiritual Life Coach trained through CTI, The Coaches
Training Institute. View her website at
http://www.AwakeningsLifeCoaching.com Email:
AwakeningsLifeCoaching@cox.net Office: 512-260-7775 Toll
Free: 866-469-8800
Using this article will allow you one pro bono coaching
session over the phone! This aids us both in deciding if
we should partner together. If you are ready for growth,
desire to become a great leader in the work place, want to
be stretched, long for renewal, grace and a fuller life,
give coaching a shot and experience the ability to truly
accomplish your dreams and goals. I would be honored to aid
you in your journey, living the God given dreams you have!
Please visit my site for all your business and personal needs.
K.D.B Business Services
word processing/proofreading, desktop publishing, bookkeeping, fax service, and computer lessons
http://kdbbusinessservices.com
children's storyebooks, poetry,various ebook topics by demand
Monday, February 06, 2006
Oh my Goodness! I am so sorry to all my faithful viewers for my absence. I have been very busy and didn't even realize that it has been almost 2 months since I was on here!
But things are on a roll for me now. I am getting married in August and have had a tons of things to plan for that. I am excited! Being in love changes your perspective on life though, I can tell you that. I have been revived and the words are finding their way to the pages again. I have had writers block for some time now and have not been feeling quite myself due to that. I wrote my first poem the other night for the first time in 2 and a half years.
For someone like me who has always used the pen and paper as a way of expressing myself it has been pure torture for me not to be able to write any emotions out. I felt dead and disassociated with all people and circumstances around me. I felt I was lost in a void with no hope for seeing the light. Then I found a very special man. He had been there all along as a dear friend but I had never thought he may be what my soul craved....until that fateful day when I needed him most and he was there. Funny how life works.
Now everything seems to be all piecing together. My business plans are taking off and apparently working out. Still alot to do but for the first time in 6 years since the plan was conceived it is looking like it may just go somewhere.
My ex husband has even managed to astonish me!!! I had the divorce papers sent over and called to make sure he signed them and sent then back since it takes 4 months to finalize. He congratulated me and gave me his blessings! Now anyone knowing my ex would know he just doesn't do that kind of thing. He is a well known jerk and even admits it himself. I feel like I have a whole new chance to do and live the life I wanted to and should have the first time around 17 years ago.
I know alot of you may not care about this, or even wonder why I am telling you my business. I just wanted to let you know that if you allow yourselves to be who you are and truly meant to be regardless of society you can find true happiness and expression. You may have to endure some hardships, even ones that may feel like they will be the death of you, but this is the time to delve into your inner resources and strengthen the character you are capable of being. With that you can acheive anything life throws at you. Write it all down!!! Share it with others. I am so tired of hearing sad and pathetic stories on the news and talk shows. Why is everyone so eager to share their misery but no one ever spreads the joy?
The only joy you seem to see is when someone wins the lottery. That's not true joy. True joy is when a passion is experienced that enriches your life in a meaningful way. Something that has an impact on you and others around with a lifelong impression that causes you to change your way of thinking for the better.
I will leave you with that thought. I hope I have encouraged you to ponder upon your own existence and per chance wonder if you may not be living up to your full potential. To all those out there who would love peace of mind and peace on earth, take care and good will! Never forget who you are and what you stand for! Never let anyone try to dash your hopes and dreams! Remember all those remembered and revered are the ones who always persisted and continued with their passions regardless of anyone elses' opinions! It is what separates the great from the average. Don't settle for average! We were destined for great things! You must believe!
Until next time my friends! Take care!
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But things are on a roll for me now. I am getting married in August and have had a tons of things to plan for that. I am excited! Being in love changes your perspective on life though, I can tell you that. I have been revived and the words are finding their way to the pages again. I have had writers block for some time now and have not been feeling quite myself due to that. I wrote my first poem the other night for the first time in 2 and a half years.
For someone like me who has always used the pen and paper as a way of expressing myself it has been pure torture for me not to be able to write any emotions out. I felt dead and disassociated with all people and circumstances around me. I felt I was lost in a void with no hope for seeing the light. Then I found a very special man. He had been there all along as a dear friend but I had never thought he may be what my soul craved....until that fateful day when I needed him most and he was there. Funny how life works.
Now everything seems to be all piecing together. My business plans are taking off and apparently working out. Still alot to do but for the first time in 6 years since the plan was conceived it is looking like it may just go somewhere.
My ex husband has even managed to astonish me!!! I had the divorce papers sent over and called to make sure he signed them and sent then back since it takes 4 months to finalize. He congratulated me and gave me his blessings! Now anyone knowing my ex would know he just doesn't do that kind of thing. He is a well known jerk and even admits it himself. I feel like I have a whole new chance to do and live the life I wanted to and should have the first time around 17 years ago.
I know alot of you may not care about this, or even wonder why I am telling you my business. I just wanted to let you know that if you allow yourselves to be who you are and truly meant to be regardless of society you can find true happiness and expression. You may have to endure some hardships, even ones that may feel like they will be the death of you, but this is the time to delve into your inner resources and strengthen the character you are capable of being. With that you can acheive anything life throws at you. Write it all down!!! Share it with others. I am so tired of hearing sad and pathetic stories on the news and talk shows. Why is everyone so eager to share their misery but no one ever spreads the joy?
The only joy you seem to see is when someone wins the lottery. That's not true joy. True joy is when a passion is experienced that enriches your life in a meaningful way. Something that has an impact on you and others around with a lifelong impression that causes you to change your way of thinking for the better.
I will leave you with that thought. I hope I have encouraged you to ponder upon your own existence and per chance wonder if you may not be living up to your full potential. To all those out there who would love peace of mind and peace on earth, take care and good will! Never forget who you are and what you stand for! Never let anyone try to dash your hopes and dreams! Remember all those remembered and revered are the ones who always persisted and continued with their passions regardless of anyone elses' opinions! It is what separates the great from the average. Don't settle for average! We were destined for great things! You must believe!
Until next time my friends! Take care!
Knock Their Socks Off! A Freelance Writer's Guide to Query Letters That Sell
Make money 15 minutes from right NOW! 100% Automated System - Affiliate Cash Vault!
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